‘Til Death Us Do Part

‘Til Death Us Do Part – The Unintentional Fulfillment of Their Marital Vows, Even After their Divorce A former client called me today to ask what to do with regard to child support since her ex-spouse had died.  After I told her, she thanked me for my help in their...

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Using the “F” Word In Divorce

In a divorce case, we have a rule about not using the “F’ word.  No, it is not that word, but it is the word “Fair”.  Everyone wants a fair divorce settlement, but exactly what’s “fair”?   There are two major issues that must be resolved in any divorce–how to divide...

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How to Protect Children Through Divorce

Children are a primary concern for parents during the divorce process. This time can be confusing and overwhelming for everyone involved, so it is essential to make sure your kids feel safe and protected. Presented here is a quick list of six things that you can do as...

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Top Worries Children Have About Divorce

The transition from married to divorce can be daunting for parents. Children may have their own worries regarding the process of divorce. The family dynamic is changing in a major way, so they may have concerns and fears regarding this major life change. Parents are...

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Effect of Divorce on Children and Adolescents

Divorce can have significant negative effects on children and adolescents.  Intense parental conflict during or after a divorce is associated with mental health problems among their children.  Hetherington found that approximately 25 percent of children whose parents...

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History of Divorce: Part III

Roman divorce customs were changed by Christian authorities when the Catholic Church became the official religion of Rome.  Christian leaders believed divorce was immoral and marriage should be indissoluble.  Catholic scholars believed celibacy was a superior...

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When Putting Off Divorce Becomes a Liability

Divorce can be a time of unpleasant conversations, turmoil, and arguments. If you are daydreaming about packing a bag and leaving this mess behind for a few weeks, you are not alone. In fact, many couples choose to separate before divorce. For those who have the...

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Fear In Divorce

There is no stronger, more enduring or more destructive an emotion in divorce than fear.  It strikes at our very essence.  It immobilizes us.  Makes us sick with worry and unable to believe that we will ever again be alright. President Roosevelt gave his first...

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History of Divorce: Part II

The earliest recorded case of divorce in ancient Rome involved a patrician who divorces his wife because she was barren.  Roman law also allowed men to divorce their wives for drinking wine, going to a public place of entertainment without consent, and other acts of...

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Bringing Your Best Self to Your Divorce Process

The moment of arriving at the conclusion that a marriage is over is often one of life’s worst moments. Grief, fear, anger, confusion, and many other emotions we don’t have words for often swirl through all of our being. In this emotional state, our Best Self— the part...

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25 Divorce Quotes

Divorce is not funny. When someone is going through a divorce, it can be the most painful time of his or her life.  But sometimes it helps to laugh and know that others have been in the same place. In compiling this collection of divorce quotes, I rejected any that...

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The History of Divorce: Part I

Divorce has existed since humans began forming pair bonds and raising children together.  Among hunter-gatherer tribes divorce was probably informal compared with modern practices, but we have no solid evidence about how they terminated long-term sexual...

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10 Things Parents Should NOT Do During a Divorce

Do not put your children in the middle of your conflict. It creates a loyalty bind and may increase emotional distress. Do not allow the children to be a messenger. Parents should talk directly to each other about child-related information.  Create a shared calendar...

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Financial Planning for Post Divorce

Divorce is an uncomfortable time for most couples. Even if you are going through the divorce using a collaborative approach, you probably don’t know what to expect from the split – which can be nerve-wracking. If you are anxious about your first meeting with the...

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Divorce: Meeting with a Financial Planner

Divorce is an uncomfortable time for most couples. Even if you are going through the divorce using a collaborative approach, you probably don’t know what to expect from the split – which can be nerve-wracking. If you are anxious about your first meeting with the...

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